Please give warm hugs and a wet snog to Kinkster Tammatha. She is going to share with us today what makes her kinky and what really turns her on. Hopefully, we will all learn something or at the very least get a few new good ideas. 🙂

Blakely: Hi Tammatha. Welcome to Blakely’s Kinky Korner! Thank you so much for being my very first interviewee! <3
Tammatha: Hi Blakely Thank you for having me. I never really considered myself a kinster until people actually call my likes kinky.

Blakely: What do you think makes you kinky?
Tammatha: I think what makes me kinky is that my taste are out of the “norm” of what people would normally try or do. There aren’t very many things in the sexual realm I would not try.

Blakely: What’s your definition of kinky?
Tammatha: My definition of kinky is something that is outside the bounds of what most people are willing to try. For example I’m not afraid to give over control of my sexuality and preferences. If I am not comfortable, I state so and move on to something else if it is something I am not willing to try.

Blakely: Why do you think you were attracted to your kink in the first place?
Tammatha: I had this feeling of euphoria take a hold of me and at first it frightened me but when I gave into it I found out that there is a whole different world of sexual pleasure to behold.

Blakely: Do you think you would ever be able to give up your kink if you fell in love with a person who wasn’t into it?
Tammatha: I am not a huge fan of the happily ever after—well let me reword that—not a firm believer of the HEA … and since sexual kink is a huge presence, I am not sure I could answer that at this moment and be honest.

Blakely: Does any of your family know about your kink? Do you think they would be shocked?
Tammatha: Some of my family and friends know of my love for the kinkier side of things and even though they may not understand the why of it, they don’t judge me for it. (at least not to my face lol) They were absolutely shocked but quickly recovered since they know how I am as a person so well.

Blakely: Is there any kink you wouldn’t try?
Tammatha: I am definitely not into scat or bestiality, oh and definitely nothing involving feet or toes. Eww!

Blakely: What do you think makes what you do kinky?
Tammatha: Hmmm, what makes me kinky… I believe the willingness to go beyond my comfort level to find new things to try to elevate the sexual experience. I also think another reason is totally mental for me. I have had to take care of a lot of people in my life, and I have had some tough experiences that I had no control over. So now, when I allow myself to enjoy things, which people deem not “normal” I feel like I am taking back a part of myself that I have lost due to abuse and other mishaps and/or bad decisions.

Blakely: Has a lover ever asked you to try a new kink and it shocked you to find out they liked it?
Tammatha: Actually yes. It was new to me at the time and I was fairly new at trying new things sexually. He asked me to watch some German porn (I assume to gauge my reaction) and the specific one was involving scat and golden showers. Needless to say, from that moment on, I was very skeptical when he asked me to be opened minded. LOL! But I will say that he is the one that introduced me to a lot of the things that I do enjoy to this day.

Blakely: What’s the funniest thing that ever happened to you while you were getting kinky?
Tammatha: Ok, so this was hilarious now that I think about it, but it was my first time being tied up and blindfolded and we were trying anal for the first time for me anyway. He used some anal beads on me and when he removed them I passed gas and had to fly to the bathroom, I ended up falling down the stairs because I, of course, forgot the blindfold was on! Also another time was on the road and I was topless and I was playing with myself. A truck driver slowed down to watch and he actually drove off the road (no accident happened) all was safe and happy. LOL

Blakely: Do you ever feel shame over your desires?
Tammatha: I used to feel shame because of what was ingrained in me from a teen of what “normal” was. I have absolutely no shame now because I am not hurting anyone and no one has to like what I do behind closed doors. (most of the time)

Blakely: If your lover came to you and said they weren’t into your kink anymore, would you give up your kink or your partner?
Tammatha: I really don’t want to sound like a heartless bitch, but I would probably suggest something a little milder if he wasn’t comfortable with the level of kink we did. But there is a strong part of me that actually NEEDS the kink. I would end up regretting my decision to stop if I did and would also end up losing the connection I had with that lover. If he wasn`t willing to compromise then it is time to part ways.

Blakely: I rarely fantasize about people I know. Do you fantasize about people you know or like me, create your own characters?
Tammatha: I definitely create my own and utilize the people in my own life for my fantasies. Boy oh boy those are the best ones by far, because they no idea what you do to them in those fantasies!

Blakely: What kind of porn do you watch?
Tammatha: My favorite porn to watch would be MMF or MFM. I don’t mind girl on girl, but definitely two or more cocks are better than one any day of the week!

Blakely: Have you ever tried something out of your comfort zone and regretted it?
Tammatha: I can honestly say that I have NEVER regretted ANYTHING that I have tried. I may not ever do it again, but there was never regret. Can’t know if you don`t try it at least once…

Blakely: Or did your comfort zone shift to include the new experience?
Tammatha: Oh this is a good one… My comfort zone definitely shifts quite often!!! I figure I would have more regret for NOT trying something different and pushing my limits.

Blakely: Can a kiss be kinky? If so, how?
Tammatha: Kisses are extremely sensual when done right and ANYTHING can be turned into kinky if you have the right imagination (wink wink). For example a kiss can be sweet and innocent, add being tossed up against the wall with a fist in your hair and it can be MIND BLOWING!

Blakely: What items in your refrigerator have you used during sex?
Tammatha: I have used chocolate sauce, honey, ketchup, hot sauce, whipped cream, cucumbers, popsicles, ice cream, ice cubes, to name a few!! It is extremely fun and erotic to play the taste game while naked and blindfolded!! Just sayin, you gotta try it!!!

Blakely: What’s your top fantasy that you want to experience?
Tammatha: I actually want a REAL Ménage, 3 men and myself. HUGE turn on for me.

Blakely: What happened the first time you did something kinky? Was it fun or embarrassing?
Tammatha: It actually caught me off guard to be honest. I was bartending at the time and I was walking to the bathroom and one of my friends tried to stop me for a kiss. I told him no and he grabbed me and threw me up against the wall, grabbed a fist full of hair, and planted one on me. I struggled with him, he actually left bruises on me, and I LOVED it. It freaked us both out at first but then we quickly got over that. LOL

Blakely: Have you stopped dating someone that wasn’t willing to experiment?
Tammatha: I was dating this guy on and off for a while before suggesting we experiment with things I had read in books. I even read him some of the stories and he said that I was CRAZY for wanting to try things like that and that i needed help! Needless to say, YES, I have stop seeing someone. LOL

Blakely: Do you think kink compatibility is as important as emotional compatibility in a long-term relationship?
Tammatha: For me it is definitely as important, if not more important, due to my issues with emotional attachment. Again, I am speaking for myself only.

A huge thank you goes out to Tammatha for being my very first victim, I mean participant. 😉 I so appreciate you jumping right in and being so honest with us. If you’d like to be interviewed, please email at blakely.bennett@gmail.com or find me on Facebook.

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