Being human can be odd at times. Somewhere along the line, most of us decided good emotions are preferable and the bad ones should be avoided, shoved down, and/or pushed away. It’s quite understandable because pain, jealousy, anger, and hate can be very uncomfortable. The problem with closing off from the “bad” emotions is that we dull our ability to feel the good ones. Continue reading
Unbeknownst to me, I’ve been poisoning myself for over a year. I’ve experienced a myriad of uncomfortable symptoms and have tried to figure out what was wrong with me. I’ve been tired upon waking, muscles sore all over my body, especial my jaw and neck, cloudy brain, which has kept me from writing, and times where I thought I was having early onset of dementia, not able to pull up a name of a good friend.
At first, I thought it was partly because I hadn’t been exercising regularly. So, for about four months straight, I walked almost every single day. It didn’t help at all. I actually felt worse. I went to my doctor to find out what was wrong with me. She had no clue, although I think she should have. I had her run blood tests for SED (inflammation) and autoimmune diseases. My SED was high, a huge jump from the year before, but she didn’t think it was a big deal since my other tests were negative. Continue reading
Please welcome Kinkster Nicholas Tanek. He’s going to share with us today what makes him kinky and what really makes him hard and gets him excited. This is a long and very interesting interview so hold on to your hats!
Blakely: Hi Nicholas Tanek. Thank you so much for joining us today! We are all looking forward to finding out what makes you kinky.
Nicholas: Hello, Blakely. It is a pleasure to speak with you. I commend you on the fact that you are promoting awareness of the BDSM and fetish communities.
Blakely: What’s your definition of kinky?
Nicholas: To me, it is something that is off from the norm in terms of sexuality. For the average person, they are ashamed and have suppressed these urges. I embrace it. Life is short. So, examples could range from vanilla to hardcore. Vanilla kink would be the simple stuff like handcuffs, light rope, restraints, blindfolds, dildos, butt plugs, etc. Hardcore? Hmm… consensual rape play, male chastity devices, forced feminization, urinating on people, extreme bondage, breath play, humiliation, etc. Continue reading
I’m not one of those gifted with good relationships with my fathers (father and stepfather) and maybe because of that, I can speak to the importance a dad can play in a young girl’s life.
My father and I were never what I would call close. I honestly thought he didn’t like me. Being myself around him was hard because I didn’t feel comfortable or emotionally safe. As a little girl, I was starved for his attention. I think my efforts to get him to see me just pissed him off. It wasn’t until I was 28 that I had the courage (after years of not speaking) to ask him the one thing I really wanted to know. Did he like me? It may sound silly, but I wanted to know the truth. Continue reading
My true calling is definitely being an author, but I think a close second might have been as a sex therapist. Maybe because I believe sex is such an important factor for a healthy, long-term relationship, I find myself sometimes pushing and prodding my friends to make changes, which will leave them more satisfied (in my not so humble opinion).
Since I’m sexually open, I think people tend to be honest with me about their sex lives. At that point, if I see something they themselves can do to make it better—because they are complaining—I can be pretty blatant with my advice. On several occasions, it’s really made a difference for them so it hasn’t discouraged my behavior. Continue reading
One of my best friends (who is a man and married) and I were just chatting about sex in marriage and I decided you all might want to chime in. I strongly believe as a loving, caring spouse, one should be concerned and invested in meeting their partner’s sexual needs. So many of my male friends are sexually dissatisfied at home. Their spouses don’t seem to want or need sex anymore, and are unwilling to make any strides to find out why that might be like hormone level testing and the like. Continue reading
I had an absolutely fabulous weekend with my husband. It’s been years since we’ve had a proper bed day and all I can say is PLAN A BED DAY SOON! You won’t regret it.
What is a bed day and how should I plan for it? I hear you all asking. Well I’ll tell you: Continue reading
I’m a masturbation enthusiast. I believe learning the ins and outs of yourself (so to speak) makes you a better lover and most definitely a better teacher for your partner on what works for you.
My husband recently shared with me an article called 13 Reasons Every Woman Should Masturbate Regularly. Before I delve into Alanna Vagianos’s reasons, I’d like to reiterate a couple of my own. Continue reading
I am a huge fan of blowjobs, which is really a silly name for taking a wonderful cock into your mouth for play. There is no blowing and there is no work involved. So who came up with that name? I much prefer suckling delight or fellatio.
I enjoy the practice of it, writing about it, and reading stories that contain the act. However, I have a few friends that don’t care for reading about blowjobs and avoid engaging in them at all costs. In both cases, they had BAD past experiences. Continue reading
Since anyone can call themselves a reviewer these days and an authority on authored works, I thought as an author I could offer some advice for well-written, fair reviews. Here are my top ten suggestions on how to be a good and fair reviewer: Continue reading