Blakely’s Kinky Korner with Sir Charles & Kitten #10

Posted on July 3, 2015 by blakely

How lucky am I today? I get two kinksters instead of one!! Please welcome the husband and wife duo, Sir Charles and Kitten. I’m thrilled to have them both share what makes them kinky and what it’s like in their D/s relationship.

Blakely: Hi, Sir Charles and Kitten. Thank you so much for joining us today! We are all looking forward to finding out what makes you both kinky.
Sir Charles: Hi, Blakely! Happy to be here.
Kitten: Hi, Blakely! To speed the answering and editing along, Sir has insisted that I wear a butt plug while I do this. 🙂

Blakely: What’s your definition of kinky?
Sir Charles: My mentor told me that if you put a finger in a lady’s bum and you both enjoy it, you’re kinky.
Kitten: Everything beyond missionary position sex! Continue reading →

Blakely’s Kinky Korner #3

Posted on May 15, 2015 by blakely

Please give warm hugs and a wet kiss to Kinkster Deanndra. She is going to share with us today what makes her kinky and what really turns her on. Hopefully, we will all learn something or at the very least get a few new good ideas. 🙂

Blakely: Hi Deanndra. Thank you so much for joining us today! We are all looking forward to finding out what makes you kinky.
Deanndra: Ooooo, this is gonna be fun. Hope I don’t embarrass anyone too much. But the ideas I give someone could get them into trouble. I hope they’re fully prepared for that.

Blakely: What’s your definition of kinky?
Deanndra: Hmmm . . . I’d say reading the Kama Sutra front to back and making notes, and hanging out in adult stores more than in grocery stores, shoe stores, or boutiques. Having a professional mechanic’s tool chest full of toys and other goodies will do it too. Now I’m telling on myself, huh? Continue reading →

Blakely’s Kinky Korner #2

Posted on May 8, 2015 by blakely

Please give warm hugs and a wet snog to Kinkster Neil. He is going to share with us today what makes him kinky and what really turns him on. Hopefully, we will all learn something or at the very least get a few new good ideas. 🙂

Blakely: Hi Neil. Thank you so much for joining us today! We are all looking forward to finding out what makes you kinky.
Neil: This should be really fun. Continue reading →

Blakely’s Kinky Korner #1

Posted on May 1, 2015 by blakely

Please give warm hugs and a wet snog to Kinkster Tammatha. She is going to share with us today what makes her kinky and what really turns her on. Hopefully, we will all learn something or at the very least get a few new good ideas. 🙂

Blakely: Hi Tammatha. Welcome to Blakely’s Kinky Korner! Thank you so much for being my very first interviewee! <3
Tammatha: Hi Blakely Thank you for having me. I never really considered myself a kinster until people actually call my likes kinky.

Blakely: What do you think makes you kinky?
Tammatha: I think what makes me kinky is that my taste are out of the “norm” of what people would normally try or do. There aren’t very many things in the sexual realm I would not try. Continue reading →

Plan a Bed Day Soon!

Posted on April 6, 2015 by blakely

I had an absolutely fabulous weekend with my husband. It’s been years since we’ve had a proper bed day and all I can say is PLAN A BED DAY SOON! You won’t regret it.

What is a bed day and how should I plan for it? I hear you all asking. Well I’ll tell you: Continue reading →

Stuck in Between RELEASE BLITZ Day Three

Posted on March 27, 2014 by blakely

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Title: Stuck In Between Continue reading →

Stuck in Between RELEASE BLITZ Day One

Posted on March 25, 2014 by blakely

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Title: Stuck In Between

Author: Blakely Bennett

Genre: Erotic Romance

Release Date: March 24, 2014

Cover Designer: Yocla Designs

Editing: Read Owl Continue reading →

The Origins of the Orgasmic Phenomena

Posted on December 9, 2013 by blakely

Many times I have heard stories from men (keep that in mind) about women who cum from simple nipple suckling, or thigh massage (no clitoral touch), or kissing alone, and most recently hair pulling at the nap of the neck. I’m not sure if I’m one of the sad few who don’t cum that way or if our faking sisters are giving us a bad name. Now don’t get me wrong, all those things turn me on but a climax isn’t imminent without clitoral attention.

I am committed to writing authentic sex scenes, not just to arouse, but also to help people to become better lovers and partners. I don’t write pornography perpetuating the stereotypical manly man bringing a woman to orgasm by his mere presence. I want it real. I want foreplay. Continue reading →

Whaaaaaat? Self Pleasure Over Intimacy?

Posted on September 23, 2013 by blakely

I find it incredibly fun to discover something I had absolutely no idea about, especially when I also find it baffling.

Did you know that some men sometimes PREFER masturbating over having sex? I had to wrap my brain around that one. I can’t imagine preferring to masturbate over having sex and my husband concurs (thanks honey!).

So I was chatting online with a friend from England and he told me this gem of information. I thought it might just be him, that men in general couldn’t possibly feel that way. Me being me, I decided to check it out and I was blown away that several other men said the same thing.

Sometimes they would rather watch porn and ride the edge of orgasm than have sex with their wives. Maybe that is saying something about their sex lives at home, but I’m just guessing. One man said that the sex with his wife had become so routine (her choice) that sometimes he would rather play on his own and search for the perfect porn to watch. Another man said that he likes to look at pictures and make it last a long time. Another guy said that masturbation is a way for him to act out his true desires because his wife is repressed.

I am happy to say that more than half the men I spoke to said they would much rather have sex than masturbate. Since I had assumed it was a given, I still find it shocking that men would rather jerk off than make love, fuck or have sex with a partner.

I do wonder if it’s the same for women. That’s definitely something to ponder.

As a writer, I’m always on the hunt for new word choices to describe the sex act and our private parts. I wrote a rather funny blog, at least I think so anyway, about words for the female anatomy which you can find here: Pussy Willow

When it comes to masturbation, I believe it’s a healthy outlet and a great way to learn about your body so you can teach what you like to others. There are lots of interesting terms to describe the act. For instance (A big thanks to my friends from the Naught Book Club for helping me with my list!):

1. Hand job
2. Five knuckle shuffle
3. Jerking off
4. Rubbing one out
5. Playing with yourself
6. Flying solo
7. Beating off
8. Diddle
9. Jacking off
10. Jilling off (Thanks Amber)
11. Pet the pussy
12. Wank
13. Slap the salami
14. Choke the Chicken
15. Wack the sack
16. Shooting off
17. Friggin’
18. Popping your nuts
19. Rosey Palm and her five sisters
20. Cranking the shaft
21. Spanking the monkey
22. Polishing the pole

As you can see the list could be endless. Feel free to add yours in the comment section.

No matter what we call it, I believe it’s a wonderful release we can give to ourselves. And as long as it doesn’t become an all-consuming activity, I say, “Yank the pud, fer sure.”

Warm hugs,

Blakely

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Bondage

Posted on March 11, 2013 by blakely

I have read about the psychology of bondage (research!) and have written several sex scenes that include one form or another of restraint. It seems pretty apparent to me that it’s a fairly mainstream activity for couples to dabble in and if the statistics are correct, even more mainstream since 50 Shades of Grey hit the stands. Just go into any adult boutique and you can see bondage is alive and well. You can purchase handcuffs and blindfolds and other fun toys to use for such endeavors.

Bondage and discipline is a favorite activity of the men in the My Body Trilogy. I’m fascinated by the trust it takes to allow someone to restrain your body and, by all accounts, the act can create a deep sense of closeness. I wonder about the attraction of being shackled and abused. I do understand that it adds a level of excitement and danger that can set your pulse racing, at least it works that way for the submissives with whom I have spoken and Jane, the main female character in my novels. There is something appealing in letting go of control and trusting someone else to take you to a place where you are left in a puddle of stimulation and sensation that sends you into intense orgasm.

I like reading BDSM stories that incorporate bondage as a theme. I like the stories best when the female is a reluctant participant but ultimately makes the decision to participate. I do find it interesting that what I read may be far more extreme than I would ever care to experience, but it’s still a turn on. I guess that’s why I write that way as well.

I love the rub (pun intended ;)) between what people think should turn them on and what actually does.

The idea of control within sex is a captivating topic and entrusting yourself to another via bondage, is the gift of the submissive.

Is the idea of bondage a turn on or off? Is it something you would consider trying? Please share your stories with us. 🙂